My Brother, My Nephew, My Reunion

On July 7, 2011, I was so blessed to be able to see my nephew, Mike, whom I haven't seen in over 40 years...It was a dream come true reunion for me and my children. The last time I saw him was in California when he was 2 1/2 years old before his mother took him back to Texas where she filed for divorce from my oldest brother, Keith. Divorce is so extremely devastating for everyone involved and the heartbreak affects all family members, especially if they move several states away.

Seeing my nephew after all these years was very emotional and bittersweet. He turned out to be an outstanding, amazing, wonderful, kind, loving and caring man with so many more awesome qualities. I am so extremely proud of him and all of his accomplishments. He is a retired Coast Guard after 21 years of service and he continues to work hard for his loving family. I caught myself hugging him every chance I could get and just staring at him throughout the evening because he looked so much like my brother with his mannerisms and all but his demeanor was so gentle and sweet; so opposite of my wild, rebellious, older brother.

I briefly thought of my brother and the way in which he was raised by a father that was way too hard on him. I am ashamed to say that my father was not a "good father" or "role model" for my brother. My father was physically and emotionally abusive. Too many times my father would call my brother "worthless" and as he grew older, it hardened him, toughened him and he grew angry. So angry that he enlisted in the United States Army and volunteered to go to Viet Nam. There was no love lost between the two of them and they never once saw eye to eye on anything. The only time I ever saw a change in both of them was on my beloved mother's death bed. My oldest son who is a Pastor spoke to his grandfather about the importance of "forgiveness" and it was then, over 50 decades of my brother's life did I witness them "forgive" and begin to love one another, as they both embraced and wept.

My brother attempted to connect with his son on a few occasions but it was not meant to be. He wrote a final letter to his son while he was in a hospital in Arizona. He did not get a response but who could blame his son after a lifetime of disappointment. He never saw his son again and passed away on April 10, 2010 from lung cancer and kidney failure.

As I try to make some sense of all of this, the tragedy and the victory.....I know that my brother deeply loved his son from a distance and he grew to love the "Lord" very deeply. I feel that my father failed my brother, my brother failed his son but "Our Heavenly Father" deeply loves all of them.

And there is a whole lot to be said about a "Mother's Love".... She provided her son/my nephew with a loving, stable home...His life would have been too chaotic with my brother and his deep seeded issues. As I was sadly saying goodbye to my precious nephew who resides in Virginia with his family, I knew in my heart that his mother had made the right decision years ago to protect her son.... The bittersweet is that we missed out on his entire life, as well but we are so blessed that he has accepted us as part of his family and we will always remain forever connected with our hearts full of "LOVE" and "JOY".....

On the way home from the reunion with my nephew, I thought of my big brother whose life on earth was so difficult and hard but rejoiced in the fact that he is now in the loving arms of his "Almighty, Eternal Father" who has loved him always, unconditionally...

Yes, Jesus Loves Me
Yes, Jesus Loves Me
Yes, Jesus Loves Me
The Bible tells me so.
Love never fails (1 Corinthians 13:8)