When I was laid off from my position last August, I never realized the huge impact it would have on me since I had been working most of my adult life. I thought that I would absolutely be loving the fact that I no longer had to set my alarm clock and fight the miserable, gridlocked traffic of a daily commute. I have to admit that the first two weeks were pretty blissful but by the third week, boredom was starting to settle in. I never even toyed with the idea of what I might possibly be doing if I were not employed anymore, other than look for more work. The one thing I discovered was that I truly missed interacting with other people since I am and always have been a "people person." Barbra Streisand phrased it so perfectly in her song, "People, people who need people, are the luckiest people in the world."
My biggest issue since I moved to Texas back in 1998 was: I really had no people. Sure, I have my wonderful daughter, son-in-love and grandchildren. My youngest son is also in Texas with my two youngest grandsons but I had no people of my own to call, friends. I'm partly to blame for this dilemma because I never felt like Texas was my home and that all of my best friends were back in California. I wasn't giving Texas a chance and I was really suffering because of this mindset.
So sitting alone day after day got to be extremely, unbearably lonely and I slowly started to become somewhat of a paralyzed recluse which frightened me to no end. I did not want to be a recluse for I am a "people person." Our Heavenly Father never meant for us to be alone either. So after many months of being alone, I decided that I was going to go over and introduce myself to my neighbor across the street who was also, alone.
In the 10 years that I have lived in my house, I only knew my neighbor to the left of me and we seldom spoke other than a simple, hello. This was a defining moment for me as I nervously approached my neighbor across the street who was out doing yard work. As I introduced myself she extended her hand and said her name was, Gabrielle. She is most definitely, without a shadow of a doubt, a most delightful "angel." And I absolutely had no idea that she was saying to herself as she was winding up her garden hose, "Today is the day"...that she was going to approach me, as well. I know and felt in my heart that it was a God thing that brought us together. She has been all alone in her house for over a year and a half and we immediately shared a common ground. She had left her family and friends in Oklahoma and felt like she was in a foreign land just exactly how I felt when I made my move to Texas.
I had her over a few days ago and we spent the whole afternoon getting to know one another, laughing and talking like there was no tomorrow. We drank tea, I made lunch, we exchanged numbers and did a little shopping. It was a wonderful day and we are planning more wonderful days ahead. We are planning to attend Bible Study and church together along with added social functions. Friendship is priceless no matter where you live. God is so AWESOME and GOOD!! My Almighty Father opened my eyes so that I could feel acceptance and love in any state!
-Little Sis Kathi
My biggest issue since I moved to Texas back in 1998 was: I really had no people. Sure, I have my wonderful daughter, son-in-love and grandchildren. My youngest son is also in Texas with my two youngest grandsons but I had no people of my own to call, friends. I'm partly to blame for this dilemma because I never felt like Texas was my home and that all of my best friends were back in California. I wasn't giving Texas a chance and I was really suffering because of this mindset.
So sitting alone day after day got to be extremely, unbearably lonely and I slowly started to become somewhat of a paralyzed recluse which frightened me to no end. I did not want to be a recluse for I am a "people person." Our Heavenly Father never meant for us to be alone either. So after many months of being alone, I decided that I was going to go over and introduce myself to my neighbor across the street who was also, alone.
In the 10 years that I have lived in my house, I only knew my neighbor to the left of me and we seldom spoke other than a simple, hello. This was a defining moment for me as I nervously approached my neighbor across the street who was out doing yard work. As I introduced myself she extended her hand and said her name was, Gabrielle. She is most definitely, without a shadow of a doubt, a most delightful "angel." And I absolutely had no idea that she was saying to herself as she was winding up her garden hose, "Today is the day"...that she was going to approach me, as well. I know and felt in my heart that it was a God thing that brought us together. She has been all alone in her house for over a year and a half and we immediately shared a common ground. She had left her family and friends in Oklahoma and felt like she was in a foreign land just exactly how I felt when I made my move to Texas.
I had her over a few days ago and we spent the whole afternoon getting to know one another, laughing and talking like there was no tomorrow. We drank tea, I made lunch, we exchanged numbers and did a little shopping. It was a wonderful day and we are planning more wonderful days ahead. We are planning to attend Bible Study and church together along with added social functions. Friendship is priceless no matter where you live. God is so AWESOME and GOOD!! My Almighty Father opened my eyes so that I could feel acceptance and love in any state!
-Little Sis Kathi
Kathi... I just wanted you to know that God spoke to me through your words in this post. Almost 2 years ago I moved from South Carolina to Colorado to live closer to my daughter and grandkids. My son, who was living in Florida decided he would move too and the entire family would be together.
ReplyDeleteI settled in pretty quickly, found a job, and an apartment and life seemed great. Last July my daughter and her family had to move back to Chicago (because of financial reasons) so that is when my life changed. When I first moved here, I had family so leaving my "people" back in SC wasn't so bad, but now the lonely has seemed overwhelming. I have become, as you so perfectly expressed, a "paralyzed recluse." You see, I too am a people person. I have recently joined a church which I love, but am finding it hard to jump in to social activities, as I just don't feel like I really belong. It hasn't helped that I get such heart-felt cards and letters from friends back home.
Your openness really touched my heart and I found hope in knowing that someone else has had the same feelings. I have moved many times in my life and never experienced problems with getting adjusted. I know that God has brought me to this place, and my son is still here and seems quite happy, so I am going to quit feeling sorry for myself and step out in faith. You have shown me that it begins with the first step.... opening myself up to one new friend! Thanks for being an inspiration!
BTW... love your blog!
Blessing, Donna
Donna...Do you feel it? I am sending you the biggest "HUG" ever recorded in the history of Cyberspace!!! I have read your comment about two dozen times now and Yes, I am going to print and frame it!
ReplyDeleteI absolutely do not have a clue as to how you found this blog because we are so "new" but many, many blessings to you for sharing your amazing, similar story and thoughts. You have inspired me because now I know I am not ALONE...I want to encourage you to continue to "join in" and express your feelings and let us know how you are doing as we make this journey together, learning from one another. YOU are, OUR "Sis" (In Christ) because we are all related in God's eyes!!!
P.S. The first step IS the hardest but you will find that it is so worth it and rewarding. I learned something very valuable from Joyce Meyers Ministry Blog. Three words, "DO IT AFRAID".... :)
Many Hugs and Blessings,
Kathi
I am both a big sister and a little sister and love it come see me at http://shopannies.blogspot.com I am a new follower
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Kathi, Got your HUG and loved your kind words. Also appreciated the inspiration from Joyce Meyers - love her too! Check out my blog, I continued the "friendship" saga... http://www.peace2sparkle.blogspot.com/ Thanks for the inspiration!
ReplyDeleteI found your blog by accident. The name caught my attention and I love the concept. I am the oldest of 7 kids (3 brothers and 3 sisters), and a grandma of 4 (2 girls, 2 boys).
Will be in touch soon... your "Sis" in Christ!
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ReplyDeleteThank you for sharing this post.. I moved to Texas just over 2 yrs ago. My husband had a wonderful job offer, so we packed up everything loaded our kids in the truck and headed down to Houston. It has been.. a struggle to say the least. Being a stay at home mom makes it so hard to meet new people, well for me it has been huge stumbling block. I keep reminding myself day after day that God didn't create me to be alone.. I thank you for sharing your post, gives me comfort in knowing I am not the only one and encourages me to step out of my box and reach out.
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Misty